Life is flying by so most of the time my wife and I can’t believe we’ve been married for 14 years now. We always talk about our life back then. We cry and laugh about it but in the end we both held our head high. Facing trials in married life is not easy but we overcome all of them. More than proud is what we are right now. I am so proud that she is so strong, smart and beautiful at the same time. When she is on a edge, she will cry, get up and move on. She hold us all together most of the time. Where we are right now is because of her. Others may not appreciate her even close friends or family. Sometimes the level of judging her as a person, a wife or a mother is so unfair. Maybe it’s her fault. Doing and finishing endless and difficult work in the house looks so easy makes people think she is doing nothing.
Once she wakes up, she is on duty. From right before the sun rises till the sun rises on the other part of the world. When we leave the house, I have no idea how she able to finish all the mess we have left. Familiar with, do the right thing when no one is looking? Integrity. For her is non-negotiable. No matter what she is doing, it is important for her to focus on her role and complete her job even no one is looking. She will give you the result that you expect. She’ll do it gracefully and effortless.
During the early years of being together as husband and wife, we always do things together. Like all couples do, we take shower together. As years passed, children came along, I can’t remember the last we did it. So I asked her and she was a bit hesitant but agreed in the end. I was looking at her and her body changed a lot. I said to myself, what have I done to this woman. After three pregnancies, after 14 years she turned into this. In my eyes she is still stunning and we still both look each other the same way. But the thought hit me really hard. I just hugged her from the back and kissed her and told her how much I love her. I’m sure it was not enough but that was all I can give her at that time. I can’t think of anything to offer that can match what she did for me and our children in all those years. I truly felt that I fell in love with her again.
When I saw how much her body changed, I was not looking for reasons anymore. I have to find a way to treat her with more love and respect for what she sacrificed for us. The way I respect and adore her, I can see it on our boys. They adore their mother so much and I am very happy about it. I am proud that one day they will treat their wives like the way I treat their mother, with love and respect.
I named this narration finding a reason because the time when I decide to marry her, I asked my self to find reason why I need to marry her and not why I should not. The answers were all good things about her, how simply being with her will make me happy. The main reason why I married her is not about her beauty or intelligence. Not about her at all. It was about me proving to her that my love is true and it will last till the day we are no longer in this world. And I promised only one thing to her, I will give her my best love.
Find your reason to love her not to leave. Find your reason to respect not to disregard her. Find your reason for her happiness not to make her miserable. Find your reasons. I am sure you can because I have found mine.
Dad of Dinosaurs
Homemaking with Mae 